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Grandparenting… and striving to age in happiness and health

Grandparenting… and striving to age in happiness and health

When my grandson JJ celebrated his Bar Mitzvah last spring, I asked him what he wanted as a gift from Grandma. His answer: “I want to take a trip with you!” I was thrilled. I love to travel, of course, and I was utterly grateful that this energetic and amazing 13-year-old boy wanted to spend a week with me. It was a wonderful gift for us both. And boy, did we have an incredible time! However, there is one thing I would have changed if I could: my level of health and fitness.

Always the planner, JJ had cleared the idea with his parents long before making his request (I may be Grandma, but Mom and Dad still make the rules!). He had imagined us in Mexico, but after some research and a wonderful travel agent, we settled on Costa Rica. I had never been there, but it has a reputation for being great for families, chock full of activities, and reasonably priced. For my grandson, Costa Rica sounded exotic and exciting. JJ and I were Central America-bound!

As soon as we arrived, I knew we’d made a great choice. The resorts cater to American tourists, so communication is easy. There were lots of families and people of every age, and I loved watching these multiple generations enjoying their time together. The whole atmosphere was relaxed and comfortable, and it felt like the perfect tropical getaway but without the premium price tag. (Aside from the thermal waters in Arenal, complete with a swim-up lounge and a sushi bar which, I can attest, is crazy expensive when you are accompanied by your teenage grandson who happens to have a passion for sushi!) Our trip included a perfect balance of higher-end resorts and activities that took us away from the tourist area and into the surrounding country.

The further we ventured into the country, the more we learned about the people who live there. I loved talking to our driver, who told us where his family vacations (a wonderful rented cabin very near the expensive hotels) and shared that, thanks to the tourism industry, most families earn about $25K/year—a living wage in Costa Rica. With the help of local drivers, we did everything JJ had hoped for. We hurled down a mountain together on zip lines. We explored the Costa Rican jungle from river rafts. We snorkeled from a catamaran. We trekked over mountain terrain on ATVs. Whenever there was an hour or two to spare, JJ had a new plan—none of which included letting Grandma lounge in a hammock or read a book! Though I was able to get through the trip thanks to sheer willpower, I know it would have been a lot easier and enjoyable for me if I were in better shape. My sedentary lifestyle has taken its toll, which means I needed more time and more help to climb in and out of the jeep, climb to the top of the zip line, and even just walk wherever we wanted to go.

On the flight home, I couldn’t help but think back on how challenging it had been for me to keep up. Yes, JJ is 13 and has boundless energy, but there is no excuse for my physical state. When I stumbled across this list of 30 ThingsYou’ll Regret When You’re Old, number 7 hit home: Failing to make fitness a priority.I don’t consider myself “old”—at least not quite yet!—but I’m done with regret! It’s time to take health and fitness seriously. It’s time to make a change. I talk constantly to clients about ways to build better, happier lives as they age. In my blog, I’ve written that living a joyous life is as much about having financial freedom as it is about being mentally and physically healthy so you can enjoy every minute. It’s time I practice what I preach.

My late Uncle Joe was everyone’s favorite uncle—whether they were related to him or not. Years ago, he told me that the secret to meaningful relationships is sharing one-on-one experiences with others. Children. Adults. People you love, and people you wanted to like better. It’s some of the best advice I’ve ever received. However, Uncle Joe had gotten something else right too: a lifelong Manhattanite, his daily walks kept him fit and healthy as he aged.

My younger granddaughters Noa and Zoe are 11 and 9 respectively. A new goal of mine is to take similar trips with them when they celebrate their Bat Mitzvahs. However, this time, I plan to be fit enough to run circles around them. I've begun working with Nancy S—my new personal trainer. (If RBG can do it, so can I.)  I’m changing how I eat and how I live. My body is going to be with me for the rest of my life. I’ve finally decided to give it the attention it deserves. So get ready to try to catch me, Noa and Zoe, because your new and improved Grandma is on her way!

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From Tanzania: Lessons in the importance of community and the riches of living an ideal life

From Tanzania: Lessons in the importance of community and the riches of living an ideal life

 I'm on a plane again, this time on my way back home from a two-week safari adventure in Tanzania. 

 

Why Tanzania? Why a safari?  It was a trip planned by a women’s dive and travel club called the OBDC (short for the Old Broads Dive Club). Only women can be members, but many of the old broads bring along their old men, too. While I enjoy independent travel, there’s a special loveliness about traveling with a group of like-minded club members. Mfirst OBDC trip was to Fiji last year, and I loved it. So when the luxury safari trip to see the Great Migration was announced, I answered the call and encouraged my friend Robin to go, too. 

 

What an experience.  

 

If you’re unfamiliar with Tanzania, here are some of the facts about this distant part of the world. It is in East Africa and is the location of Mt. Kilimanjaro, Lake Victoria, and the Serengeti region. With a population of 55 million, per capita GDP is about $1,100 per year, and the workforce participation rate is low. (What a contrast to our dollar-driven society!) Unofficially, about 15% of the population does not have enough to eat. Yet, there are so many wonderful things about their society. The population consists of five major tribes, and about 120 tribes in total. People speak their tribal language, the national language of Swahili, and most learn EnglishThere is compulsory education until age 15, and the people take great in pride in their natural environment and their efforts to protect it 

 

Despite the obvious hardships, the people I met did not seem to be suffering. They are a proud, strong, loving community. They told us stories about when they gained their independence, and although the economy regressed after that, they are hopeful and dedicated to a better futureAt a village school we visited (where the children treated us like bona fide VIPs), one little girl told me she wants to be a pilot. Another wants to be a writer. These are people who work hard, cherish family, sing with joy, and are welcoming to strangers—even to 21 Old Broads whose lives and perspectives are worlds apart from their own. 

 

When we were on safari, wwere blessed with marvelous, English-speaking guides who seemed to know every fact there is to know about the incredibly beautiful Serengetithe national park where we traveled. As our guide drove us through the bush, he seemed to know all the other driver guides. For the people we had the good fortune of meeting, there was an easy joy that seemed to come from life itself and their relationships with each other.  

 

Henry Miller once wrote, “One’s destination is never a place, but always a new way of seeing things.” In Tanzania, the people we saw on the streets, met working at our resort, and served as our guides were all living examples of the importance of community in a world that, in my experience, seems to reward independence and the strength to go it alone. In villages that some might see as disadvantaged, I saw joy, hope, and love. Among a people who lacked money for what we Westerners might consider their most basic needs, they seemed to want little. By focusing on community and honoring nature, everyone around me seemed to be living fully—together. This overwhelming sense of community was infectious.  

 

Observing the behaviors of wildebeests, zebras, giraffes, elephants, baboon, birds, hippos, leopards (yes, we saw the big five) was the most amazing part of the journey. Elephantin matriarchal families took care of each other with soft, deliberate gentlenessMillions of wildebeest carefully herded their babies across the Mara riverAs we watched, our group connected at deeper levels and, much like the animals around us, we took gentle care of each other. Perhaps the lesson from the Tanzania trip was how the ability to live an ideal life is defined not by riches or belongings, but from the inside out, and by the community that holds us close 

 

The trip to Tanzania gave me the opportunity to see life stripped down to the basics—for the people around me and for all other species. What are the basics? They are more simple than you might think. What I saw was that all we really need are the natural resources to sustain us, and our interdependence and communityFor better or worse, iour developed society, our primary resource is money. We need money to obtain food, shelter, and clean water. We need money to care for our families and give them safe, healthyand happy lives. Without money, I could never have traveled to Tanzania to share another experience with my friends in the OBDCHowever, money will never—and can never—give us everything we need.  

 

As I head home to Southern California and back to life and business, the importance of community and its role in making it possible to live an ideal life—however you define it—is the lesson I am bringing back home. Perhaps that is the gift the Old Broads and Tanzania itself had in store for me all along. 

 

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